Melanie Onn's biggest critic is Melanie Onn. When, on Saturday, July 26, the Great Grimsby Labour Party selected her to stand as the Prospective Parliamentary Candidate in next year's General Election she didn't celebrate in any obvious sense of the word. Yes, she was happy, but mostly she was relieved after all the work she had put in. That initial moment of muted euphoria soon passed, however, as our former Parliamentary Correspondent, Soraya Kishtwari discovered.
"After the selection, I spent a good three weeks where all I could think about was the things I wish I had done better during the campaign and kicking myself for failing to achieve more, even though I had won," says Melanie Onn.
"I always feel like I have to prove myself and I put oodles of pressure on myself to get things done.
"But then women are constantly pulling themselves apart thinking I should have been better."
Nevertheless, winning the selection ranks among one of her greatest achievements and while the perfectionist in her will always find a flaw of one sort or another, she knows where her strengths lie.
She enjoyed the selection process "because it's a combination of developing and running a campaign; defining your message".
The mother-of-one, more generally accustomed to being "in the background", has had to adjust to taking centre stage – not something her upbringing naturally predisposes her for.
Melanie's early childhood was spent on Grimsby's Grange estate and later the Nunsthorpe estate.
Her mother was "a bit of a hippy; a transient searching for inner peace". That search would eventually take mum and four-year-old Melanie to the capital.
Her experience was more Mean Streets than Sesame Street.
"It was tough. I went to a rough school and it was littered with racial tensions, we were all really well versed in a lot of swear words, even at that age."
When, at six, the opportunity came up for her to return to Grimsby and move in with her great-aunt in Healing village, on the outskirts of town, she did.
As for her father, Melanie never got to meet him, "although I read in the Grimsby Telegraph recently that he died. I think he did – there was an obit".
Despite no father figure and later being separated from her mother – not to mention several moves – she describes her early years as "a wonderful upbringing".
"We had a garden and stability and the local school was just behind my aunt's council house. It was green and safe and I felt very loved and I was delighted to be there."
But then she hit her teens and hit a brick wall. It was during this time that things began to unravel, and when the absence of her mum and the generational gap between her and her great-aunt (who was significantly older) was most keenly felt.
"I was lovely. Then I hit my teens and that's when I became horrible," she says.
She particularly struggled when her aunt's stroke-afflicted Polish lodger required round-the-clock care, a task she reluctantly pitched in with.
"My great aunt became his carer; it meant that he couldn't feed himself, wash himself, get himself to the bathroom, and it was very difficult for me to accept that I had to be involved in it.
"I'd be getting ready for my GCSEs and getting up in the middle of the night to change the bed sheets.
"I remember thinking 'I can't do this', which is really selfish, actually, but then teenagers are, aren't they?"
Soon after leaving school, she decided to leave the house she shared with her aunt after their relationship "broke down".
Thanks to local charity Doorstep, which provides housing support to young people, Melanie soon had a roof over her head.
"My partner now calls it a house for delinquent girls, but we weren't really," she jokes.
"We just had troubled family relationships, but they put me there and that was it then – I was on my own from 17."
It was during this time, while she was studying English, politics and law for her A-Levels, that she found her campaigning voice on a number of issues, from animal rights to calling for girls to be able to wear trousers at college.
"They weren't able to at the time, which seems ridiculous today," she says.
"I also had a thing about abortion," she adds, and for women to have the right to determine what to do with their own bodies.
She went onto read Politics, Philosophy and International Studies at Middlesex University in North London.
"The place I was happy to escape from I went back to again," she says, spotting the irony.
Her first job out of university was working the 5am shift at Tesco. When that was over, she'd head over to South East London volunteering at Action For Blind People.
"I needed the experience of a real job, because even then having a degree wasn't enough to secure a proper job.
"They had a Remploy factory attached (for disabled workers), so I engaged very heavily with the GMB (trade union). It was a really good charity and they introduced me to that kind of political role."
By January 2001, she landed herself a job as a receptionist at the Labour Party's headquarters near Parliament.
Other than saying she was sympathetic to the party, she knew "very little" about it.
"I wasn't old enough to vote in '97 so I hadn't had the opportunity to vote for them and I had never engaged in local government elections. I was a Labour sympathiser because my nan had been a member and had done leafleting, and I knew that my great-aunt was a Labour supporter because she shouted at some Tories telling them not to bother coming up because we were Labour here."
But it's Grimsby that keeps calling her back.
Today, much of her time is spent juggling her parliamentary bid alongside her job as the Yorkshire and Humber's regional organiser for Unison, as well as looking after her son, a responsibility she shares with her ex-husband.
I ask her if there were any policy announcements from the Labour Party Conference in Manchester that triggered any alarm bells. She pauses for a moment, before citing shadow chancellor Ed Balls' plans to cap child benefit.
"That feels really uncomfortable when the thrust of Ed's speech was very much about reconnecting with people who are struggling," she says.
"I'm not sure that saying that children are not deserving of their child benefits and parents who need it are going to be happy.
"On the plus side there's a time-limit – the first two years. I don't think anyone who has a social conscience would want to see the poorest families hit with a universal benefit like child benefit being capped."
Melanie's background prompted claims that Labour have been in cahoots with the trade union to "fix" Grimsby for her, while the party's outgoing veteran MP, Austin Mitchell, questioned the wisdom of All Women Shortlists, under which she was elected.
Labour have repeatedly rejected the charge, not least because they say it does not accurately reflect the way the AWS process works.
But Mr Mitchell's typically colourful words were not exactly what Melanie's election team had bargained for.
For her part, she has maintained a dignified silence since Mr Mitchell's controversial op-ed in one of the nationals.
The only thing she will venture is: "Austin is his entitled to his own opinion. There is nothing that anybody can do to stop Austin sharing his view or his opinions, so what benefit would there have been for me to go and say that it wasn't that way and that it was hard-fought and that the rest of the candidates were fantastic, but I'm really proud to have won? It would have back-fired and I would have looked churlish."
From friendly-fire to enemy attacks, Melanie's sights are firmly set on retaining the seat for Labour – no mean feat given the party's majority was eroded to just 714 at the last election.
It is this, along with a number of economic factors including a collapsed fishing industry, a large under-employed working-age population and many retired voters, that all make Great Grimsby rich pickings for UKIP.
Says Melanie: "From my perspective, the messages that Ukip are peddling are incredibly difficult to counter, because they're not based on reality or any basis of fact in Grimsby. It's more about a fear of what might happen, perception is massive."
She recognises, however, the need for the local Labour Party "to take a different approach".
She tells me: "If people say they are concerned about immigration, what we don't do is say 'no, you can't be concerned about immigration', that is not the way to go about it."
In many cases, she finds people's fears of immigrants – about them taking jobs, undercutting local workers and putting pressure on public services – are based on what they've heard from others, rather than first-hand experience.
She accepts that wages being driven down, as employers look to make savings by exploiting migrant workers, is "a flashpoint and an understandable one".
But despite claiming to be scared by "everything", Melanie's a fighter, you sense.
And underneath that small frame lies enough grit and resolve to give Ukip a run for their money – even if she does beat herself up in the process.
Look out for features on the area's other prospective candidates in the coming weeks.
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